Why Ariana Grande has Nothing to do with Mac Miller’s Death

Why Ariana Grande has Nothing to do with Mac Miller’s Death

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Claudia Martillo, Writer

On September 7, 2018, Malcolm James McCormick, more famously known as rapper Mac Miller, passed away at the age of 26.

The cause of death has been rumored to be a drug overdose, but official autopsy reports have yet to be released. Miller had been very open about his struggles with sobriety and depression, writing songs about drug usage, mental health, and his dream to become sober.

Miller’s death came about 5 months after the breakup between him and pop artist Ariana Grande. Grande confirmed their breakup May 9, 2018, in a post on her Instagram stories. Grande wrote: “This is one of my best friends in the world and favorite people on the planet, Malcolm McCormick. I respect and adore him endlessly and am grateful to have him in my life in any form, at all times regardless of how our relationship changes or what the universe holds for each of us!” attached with a picture of the two.

Their relationship ended after two years of dating but their friendship started in 2013 with their collaborative song “The Way.” The breakup appeared amicable and Grande went on to start dating Saturday Night Live star, Pete Davidson a few weeks after. Speculation of Davidson and Grande’s engagement was confirmed with an Instagram post of the engagement ring on June 15, 2018.

However, immediately after Miller’s tragic death, people took to Twitter and Instagram to blame Grande for it. She received several hateful comments with the majority saying that “This is your fault.” Grande ultimately decided to disable her comment section. This is not the first time Grande was blamed for Miller’s actions since most Miller fans speculated that the reason for his DUI, which Miller was charged with in May for driving under the influence with a blood alcohol concentration above the legal limit of 0.08, was because of her.

Regardless of the fact that Miller was under the influence while it happened, people suspected it was because he was heartbroken about their breakup and Grande’s relationship with Davidson. However, Grande shot down this absurd idea in a tweet. In this tweet, Grande called her relationship with Miller “toxic,” implying that it was becoming harmful to both parties. Several friends of Miller have said that “She was deeply helpful and effective in keeping Mac sober and helping him get sober and she was all about him being healthy, period, in this area of this life.” However, one can imagine the difficulty Grande must have faced with trying to help someone with addiction while also dealing with her own anxiety and busy life.

Sobriety is a greatly challenging state to maintain and cannot be reached without self-motivation and guidance from friends and family. However, a girlfriend is not the same as being someone’s doctor or mother. Women are not the cure for all things wrong with men. In this specific case, it was not up to Grande to act as a sobriety system, although she did encourage him to seek help and offered support. People still believe that she did not do enough. Miller was a 26-year-old man capable of making his own decisions and Grande was not responsible for his actions. This perpetuates the idea that women exist only for men.

People who are in toxic or abusive relationships should do what they believe is best, and in this situation, Grande felt that she could she could no longer help Miller and that breaking up was the best decision. People say that this breakup was selfish on her part because Miller was struggling and had devoted himself to Grande, hinting at the song “Cinderella” he wrote about her.

However, a song does not mean she has to suffer through a one-sided and harmful relationship forever. Most people, specifically women, who remain in toxic relationships are either not understood as to why they stay in their relationships or are ridiculed about the partner’s actions post-breakup. Ariana Grande is living through every person’s, who has ever been in a toxic relationship, worst nightmare.

People in toxic relationships need to realize that, although extremely difficult, it is completely okay to leave a relationship if you are sacrificing yourself for the other person, but also continue to wish the best for them. Society needs to recognize this and eradicate the idea that people in these relationships are not allowed to do what is best for themselves.